Woman stalking Male Anchor....

[ISTHISTHINGON?]

I'm looking for your thoughts here. Female viewer, who is a secretary for the US Marshal Service in town, has over the past couple of months been sending nice emails and whatnots. Okay, that's flattering. Then this past Monday, I get an email from person claiming to be a 'rising junior' at the local university and that she and her roommate love to watch. Flattering again. This emailee continues to email Tuesday, then today....asking to meet her and her rooommate for lunch. I'm not the type to blind meet, especially someone that young, but out of curiousity I ran this email through "Myspace" and LOW AND BEHOLD....it's registered to the Secretary for the US Marshal Service, who by the way(per info on myspace) is 42. So I sent an email to the 'rising junior' with the link to the myspace account, saying "I am not a fan of deception". She emailed back embarrassed, and said she's sorry.
Here's the question....would you be alarmed?
Guys don't have to worry about being stalked and raped, but everyone is open to a gunshot from someone not mentally healthy. My email replies were completely professional to BOTH emailees. Thanks in advance.

[Mighty Dyckerson]

If she's hot, it's a turn on. If she's fugly, call the cops on the psycho.

[Roy Hobbs]

I'd tell her and her roommate that you can't make it but your buddy Kent would love to meet them both.
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[ISTHISTHINGON?]

Actually, I'm not too much into the joking side of this one.

[Obewon]

First of all, you're way away from this being a stalker. She gave it a shot,
failed and apologized. Let it go at that, unless anything else happens.

Secondly, she works for the US Marshall. That's a cush job and she isn't likely going to want to give it up.

Having said that, bullets go in both directions. Even if you weren't being stalked you should be armed.

[ISTHISTHINGON?]

First of all, you're way away from this being a stalker. She gave it a shot,
failed and apologized. Let it go at that, unless anything else happens.

Secondly, she works for the US Marshall. That's a cush job and she isn't likely going to want to give it up.

Having said that, bullets go in both directions. Even if you weren't being stalked you should be armed.
But that 'shot' you're talking about was, I can only imagine, to coerce me into meeting her(the coeds) because she thinks I wouldn't meet her if she asked herself. I say 'stalker' only because under the 'us marshal' email, she complimented me waaaaay too much. And while I would hope she value's her job over doing something stupid...many many people have lost their jobs over doing something stupid. Hmmm, a certain six figure Philly anchor team had cush jobs, and both are unemployed right now. Not in a stalking sense, but just sayin' some people don't consider the consequences. But regardless, thanks for the reply.

[Another OMB]

If it were me, I'd leave it alone for awhile and see what, if anything happens. It sounds to me, too, like she gave it a try (to meet you) and failed, and may slink off, embarrassed.

If she emails again, and tries again to meet, then I might start getting worried. What you do after that, I really don't know. I've never had to deal with this, fortunately. I've only had a few requests for autographed photos over the years.

[rootboyslim]

I had a stalker calling me and leaving messages. She was a former Dallas Cowboy cheerleader and a flight attendant. Sounded great, but I was a newlywed and let her know. Well, she kept on calling and leaving messages wanting me to meet. As flattered as I was, I told the ND who grilled me to make sure there was nothing going on between us. When he was convinced, he had our layers make one call and it ended.

The funny thing is former Cowboy cheerleadera and flight attendant, sort of piqued my interest. This married couple and neighbors of mine are both flight attendants at said airline and I just had to ask. Was she hot?

Answer: maybe in her day, btu she had sued this ariline when they fired her for being a bit too heavy. Oh well.

[Produce man]

I had a stalker calling me and leaving messages. She was a former Dallas Cowboy cheerleader and a flight attendant. Sounded great, but I was a newlywed and let her know. Well, she kept on calling and leaving messages wanting me to meet. As flattered as I was, I told the ND who grilled me to make sure there was nothing going on between us. When he was convinced, he had our layers make one call and it ended.

The funny thing is former Cowboy cheerleadera and flight attendant, sort of piqued my interest. This married couple and neighbors of mine are both flight attendants at said airline and I just had to ask. Was she hot?

Answer: maybe in her day, btu she had sued this ariline when they fired her for being a bit too heavy. Oh well.You guys have "layers"?!!

Where do I sign up for THAT job???!!:thumbsup:

[Randy Steinman]

If it were me, I'd leave it alone for awhile and see what, if anything happens. It sounds to me, too, like she gave it a try (to meet you) and failed, and may slink off, embarrassed.


Agreed.

[Another side]

Me, too. If she was a stalker, she's not very good at it. Working for the marshall's service, she could have used her access to governenment computers to know everything about you by now ... including marital status and home address.

Sounds like she was just flirting with you and as someone else put it, she took her shot. Enjoy it, puff your chest out for a moment. Someone likes you ... can't be all THAT bad.

[Brain Cramp]

When she posed as the young woman with the friend and invited you to meet "them" for lunch, what was she going to do if you showed up? I think she was going to sit at a table alone and watch you. She wasn't going to reveal herself. It was a ruse to get you there and then, again, she was going to WATCH you. That's why alarm bells are going off in your head and rightly so. You may have put an end to it by confronting her. I hope so. It sounds like more than just curious interest on her part.

[nkr]

From one who HAS dealt with a stalker.. and not saying this woman is... why tempt fate? She's obviously a very immature 42 if she's posing as a college girl. Why bother with this woman..because she sent you nice emails?? C'mon... you don't need this.

[Another OMB]

Something dawned on me after posting my first response. This woman claimed to be a "rising junior" at the local college. So what would that make her? A sophomore. And what's the word for that kind of immaturity? Sophomoric. Possibly a Freudian slip on her part.

[Focker]

...but out of curiousity I ran this email through "Myspace" and LOW AND BEHOLD....it's registered to the Secretary for the US Marshal Service, who by the way(per info on myspace) is 42.

I didn't know "Myspace" has registration info for email accounts. How exactly did you run it through "Myspace" and find that it was registered to the Secretary?

[AllSmiles]

Something dawned on me after posting my first response. This woman claimed to be a "rising junior" at the local college. So what would that make her? A sophomore. And what's the word for that kind of immaturity? Sophomoric. Possibly a Freudian slip on her part.

To be fair, she really could be a junior in college- age doesn't matter you can go to university at any age. Not that she doesn't sound a little off her rocker or anything.

[ISTHISTHINGON?]

I didn't know "Myspace" has registration info for email accounts. How exactly did you run it through "Myspace" and find that it was registered to the Secretary?
I knew the womans name via her "US Marshal" emails. When I ran this 'rising junior' email through the myspace search engine(I did this knowing many students have myspace accounts), it came up with her info on it. I'm guessing she thought I wouldn't check that way...but it's in my blood to be nosey. :shifty:
Thanks for the replies guys...I guess the bottom line here is that the flirting thing doesn't bother me...it was the deception to get me to meet her. From my point of view...anyone who I met under false pretenses would never get my attention again. But it's also a little weird that a 42 year old would try this. Again, thanks guys.:cheers:

[ISTHISTHINGON?]

Damn it...3 voice messages and an email over the weekend. All ranging from a 5 minute I'm sorry, to asking me out for drinks again, to saying she's sending me a tie to wear on air that's her favorite color. I guess I have my answer now. Paperwork with Police. It just seems silly to have to do this.:rolleyes: :(

[Brain Cramp]

Not silly at all. There's so much about this woman you don't know .... and don't want to know. Let the police handle it.

[Another OMB]

I think now the key phrase is "what you DON'T know CAN hurt you." If she had just left it alone, I'd say forget about it. Now, I agree you've got a problem. I keep picturing Glenn Close in "Fatal Attraction".

[The Fedora]

dude... that is some scary scary stuff. very happy that I have not had to deal with it.

[Laughing Angel]

Yeah, it's really serious now. Hopefully, a little "talk" with the local authorities will bring this to a close.

In the meantime, be careful in case she decides to visit.

[southwesternguy]

You guys have "layers"?!!

Where do I sign up for THAT job???!!:thumbsup:

Funniest thing I've read on here in a long time.

[Quagmire]

I kinda hope for a stalker.

[Mighty Dyckerson]

...she's sending me a tie to wear on air that's her favorite color.

Give the tie to the weather guesser. Tell him it's an early birthday present or something. Then it becomes his problem.

[trunky]

I know this is a serious problem, but honestly, I probably would've met with her, and if she was good-looking, taxed the hell out of that a$$. gnomesain?

[Convergence_Divergence]

I would talk to your ND before going to the police. This might not be something that he/she wants to caught off-guard about.

But I totally agree. This just got beyond weird and into creepy/ludicrous territory and you've got to do something.

[ISTHISTHINGON?]

I know this is a serious problem, but honestly, I probably would've met with her, and if she was good-looking, taxed the hell out of that a$$. gnomesain?
Here's the thing....TV must have made 'stalkers' good looking because those I've seen(past problems, colleagues problems, problems with others in the field I've read about)are NOT something you'd want to screw just to get it on with someone. In my case, NOT attractive. How do I know? She's sent a picture....along with other crazy "you're such a friend to me" type emails(when I've always been short and professional in my replies).
And trust me, from a guy who's had his share of crazy ex-girlfriends...the last thing you want to do is give some whack job even more reason to be mentally involved in your daily life. Yes, in TV, they are somewhat attractive at times. In reality...they are very lonely, and in worst case scenerios, crazy people. Does the phrase "Boil the rabbits" mean anything?:(

[ISTHISTHINGON?]

I would talk to your ND before going to the police. This might not be something that he/she wants to caught off-guard about.

But I totally agree. This just got beyond weird and into creepy/ludicrous territory and you've got to do something.
N.D. is now aware....and copied on an email sent to lady basically saying "I appreciate your kind words you've spoken in the past but now I must ask for you to cease and desist any phone call or email to me. You have overstepped professional boundries and I am not comfortable with this situation. In light of your job with the Marshal Service, I am hoping you understand my request, and hope your contacting me will end here. If not, I will be forced to file paperwork with police. If you have a valid news story, please contact the newsroom and pass the story along through to one of my other colleagues."

So far, so good.
Glass half full? It's been about a week now, and nothing. Nothing over the weekend in the voicemail, nothing on the work email.
Glass half empty? She's sitting at home bottling up frustration and creating some bizarro world that doesn't exist between the two of us.
I'm leaning towards the Glass half full version...while it may not have the exciting storyline...it's got a happy ending.:)

[Brain Cramp]

Keep us posted ... especially if she shows up in your newsroom looking like this ...

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[Roy Hobbs]

Freaked me out when she showed up at the ballpark...
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[sportzchick]

Just always be aware of your surroundings.
Hopefully she hasn't used her position to find out where you live.
Eeek!

[Roy Hobbs]

I read an interesting book on this in library, having done PR for a number of celebrities.

The key thing to remember is that usually there is no danger unless the stalker starts writing or saying violent things. Doesn't sound like what's happening here.

[trunky]

"NOT attractive"

oh.

well in that case... sounds like the situation is progressing at it should (assuming she's not becoming further deranged in her spare time and making wild plans for the two of you).

Good luck with everything, hope you never hear from her again.